Damn Spam

I’ve been trying to work out why a certain post has so many hits – then I found out that some dirty so and so has linked to my site from, of all things, a porn site!! Argh! I’m not sure if it’s to do with the title of my blog (you know, the whole ‘confessions’ thing), or if this person isn’t actually a person, but a computer searching the web for specific words attached to blogs and then it links to them, but it totally freaked me out.

Now, I’m in a dilemma. Do I change the name of my blog to prevent this from continuing to happen, or do I just ride it out and see what happens? Part of me wants to ride it out – it’s kind of exciting to see that many hits on one of my posts – sad, I know, but what’s a girl to do. It’s nice to be noticed. But the other part of me thinks I should change the name just so some weird dude looking for ‘new nuible girls waiting for you’ doesn’t decide to go trapsing through my blog and leave his dirty, filthy prints all over it. *sigh*

It’s kind of funny though. Not funny ‘ha ha’, but funny ‘weird’, as I recently had a conversation with a friends daughter who wanted to know why I called it ‘Confessions from the Play Room’, when, as she so astutely points out ‘there aren’t any real confessions on it’. Well, no, there aren’t. And as she again points out ‘it’s no Scary Mommy blog’. Again, you got me. But I think one Scary Mommy is plenty – heck, she’s got two books, a video series and the confessions on the site are up in the 1,000’s. Good for her. But that was never my intention. I was never looking for people to post on here with their deepest, darkest secrets (you can keep that for another blog), and really, the ‘confession’ part of it is just simply that we, as parents, aren’t perfect. We make mistakes, we do stupid things, and constantly worry that we are making our children slightly dysfunctional because of it. That’s what makes it a good read (at least, that’s what makes it a good read for me), and essentially, what makes it funny.

Kids operate on a totally different level to grown ups. They see the world in a much broader, and infinitely more intersting way than we do. And because of that, weird stuff happens. Kids ‘painting’ with poop. Kids wearing their Mom’s bra’s as a hat because that’s what they look like. Kids telling parents that ‘Satan is coming to town, so you better be good’. It’s stuff like this that makes doing this blog fun for me. I’m not looking for people to tell me that they hid in the bathroom with cookies because they don’t want to share with their kids (although, that one is kind of funny), or that, the moment their little ones are asleep, the bottle of wine comes out and their night begins (actually, I’ve done that one a couple of times). Or even that they covet their little one’s clothing because it’s much more fashionable than theirs (hang on…. I’ve done that one too. Hmmm, seeing a pattern develop here).

If people want to tell me that they secretly pretend to be asleep because they just don’t have the energy to be initimate with their partner, or that they would rather eat a pound cake than go out and play with their little ones, that’s fine. It’s just not what I am (or this blog) is about. But if people want to share with me the story about the day their little one told the next door neighbor that Daddy makes Mommy yell ‘Stop. No don’t stop’, or that their 3 year old decided it was a good idea to put the car keys in the toilet and flush it, then I’ll all down for that, and if they are okay with me sharing with you, then all the better.

Look, at the end of the day, being a parent is a hard, often confusing but most definitely very rewarding job. But there is one thing we must all try to remember – just as every child is different, so is every parent. While I might not agree with your tactics in getting your child to go to sleep, I’m going to be the last person to go ‘tsk, tsk’ about it. We all do our very best to try and raise our children to be better people, and while at times it might feel like we are dismal failures, I think for the most part, we are pretty successful at it.

So, till next time, just enjoy the ride – it will be over before you know it.

K

(and here’s day 15 of Jimi)


Just hanging out with some ‘snowy’ buddies.


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